The very first questions we all ask ourselves at some point in life is who am I? What do I want to do in life?
At some point we all visit this place (The Uncertaintyville), where we feel lost and detached from everything and everyone. We start believing that everyone has a plan except for us. We live in a world where it is expected from us that once we reach a certain age, we are supposed to have everything sorted out, a good job with a status, a stable relationship, and a fully developed, strong and confident version of ourselves in other words an adult.
"Defining strong and confidents means that we become immune to feeling envy, feeling uncertain of our decisions and lacking confidence".
These are regarded to be components we are supposed to leave behind when we become adults. At least this is what we till ourselves. When we reach the “right” age where we are regarded as adults and we begin to feel unsure of our decisions and feel unconfident in ourselves we fall in a dark hole, of uncertainty. At least that is what we let ourselves believe. Simply because things are not going the way we have planned it, or that we have never had a plan to begin with, or that we believe that we have outgrown our younger unconfident and scared selves but what we never think that maybe this is not meant to shape our identity.
"There is nothing wrong with feeling that we don’t have it all together. No one does, and if they do well then, they are great at faking it".
One thing that I have learned this far is, just because we try different paths until we find the right one doesn’t mean we have failed. It means we are searching for a different perspective and for our purpose in life. Trying new things and taking new paths that we normally wont, makes way for us to find out new things about ourselves one step at a time. Our experiences shape us and prepare us for even bigger challenges. Which we should welcome with open arms because our failures make us stronger. There is nothing wrong with feeling that we don’t have it all together. No one does, and if they do well then, they are great at faking it.
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